This new college experience has taught me many things. An important thing I learned is that in college, you are pretty much on your own. There will not be teachers that keep an eye on you and make sure your work is finished. I learned that the only way to graduate college is if you try your hardest and commit to it one hundred percent. College is more an independent thing because it all comes down to what you do in school. Another thing I learned was that networking is one of the most important things to do at Columbia. Meeting new people is always a good thing and the more people you know, the more connections you will have concerning your career and happiness. Even money is a huge issue at Columbia. I learned that even though it could be hard to pay off, it’ll be worth it later on in the future when your career turns out to be the thing you love doing the most.
Going through this experience, I learned a whole lot about myself. I never really noticed I had the potential of being a college student until I came to the bridge program. I am capable of doing a lot of things and I never realized how easy it is to progress on something if you just give it a chance. It got me thinking that being in this program made me realize that a lot of things are possible. I was never a good student in school but ever since I came to the bridge program, I learned that I could be a good student if I tried.
There are some habits that I need to get rid of. Those habits are the reasons why I was never an A+ student. I need to stop procrastinating and just finish my work with complete concentration. I need to stay away from things that would distract me from doing my work. I also need to start thinking of school as a very important thing and also a privilege. One thing I would love to change about myself is not being able to think at times. I hate when I’m in the middle of a sentence and then I just forget the rest of what I was going to write. It really annoys me when that happens. But I think that happens because I’m not too concentrated on it and that is another thing I need to work on.
I feel like the obstacle to having a successful two semesters would be time and my social life. Right what I can do is that I can look at my schedule and set up some type of routine for each day. I can notify my friends and family about my schedule and what’s going on.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Final Day: Richard
Final Response
During the course of the bridge program I learned a lot about myself, my surroundings, expectations and the school of my dreams. I thought that my time here would be easy and I shouldn't have to worried so much but when I got here it was a whole other story. Waking up everyday like my old high school routine, making sure I got to class on time and made sure my work was efficient and on time as well. I learned that college is not like high school and you have a lot of free time to spare but you have to use your time wisely. I need to let go of all my lazy habits not just a specific habit, all of them because I know that if I still carry the same tendencies then I probably will be another bridge student who is going to drop out of college which is not an option for me. All the good habits I need to kick in even during the weeks of welcome because there is no time to slack not one minute of my teachers time. I learned how to develop these good tendencies during the bridge program so hopefully as I pass on to be a undergraduate I'll still have those same good habits to show in my classes.
The perfect semester... hmm well I could really explain the perfect semester for me unless there was less school work and more free time but that's my lazy side talking to me. I know that later on as I progress further into school my issues will decrease because of the maturity that I will begin to increase. I would want to challenge myself more than to keep the same lazy schedule of not having classes when really I should be having them inserted in for my years to come. I feel like I finally proved myself that I can do anything that's possible no matter how impossible it may sound. Breaking barriers, pushing limits they all can back fire and it has happened sometimes before but I still keep my head up through the turmoil.
Of course nobody is perfect, I myself is no where near perfect but I know I try to be the best I can be at what I do. Time has flew by and now it really is time for the big leagues and I hoping to make a great rookie debut for Columbia College Chicago. My biggest impediment in school was my sleeping schedule; it's very hard to adjust sleeping hours especially now that my classes are going to be very separated. I know already for a fact that academically during the school I'll be at my best, every kid has high grades when school starts but it is the problem of maintaining them throughout the semester and semesters to come. Personally I'll be great, I'm very social, I'm not hard to make friends with but if you start to be too much then I might just have to let you go. Now I'll be making changes to clean my ways of learning because of I can't understand and correct myself how am I suppose to learn from somebody else. This year is going to be great I can feel and its hard to describe in words but I hope everyone does great and stays in school.
Bridge Final Day: Allie
Over the course of bridge, I have learned that if I really dedicate myself and focus, I can get things done and do them well. I've learned that being lazy and only half doing your work will not cut it in college and that I can actually complete my work and feel confident about it when I turn it in. I have learned that while college won't be easy, if I work hard, go to class, and do everything I'm supposed to do and put all my effort into it, it will go more smoothly for me. A habit I need to drop is procrastinating. Although it's gotten better since bridge, I still admit that sometimes I will wait until 7 or 8 to start my work. I need to study earlier and start focusing earlier so that I can be fully commited to my work. I also need to not have any distractions while I'm studying or working on my homework, because that makes it take even longer and keeps me from being tuned in to what I'm doing at the moment. I think my organization skills have gotten better, along with actually doing my work. In high school, if the homework wasn't something that interested me I would just write whatever just to get it out of the way, but being in bridge I've learned that I have to do the assignment 100% and do it correctly, and it actually makes me feel a lot better about it when I'm done and I turn it in.
If I could have a perfect semester, I would want to have a least a 3.0 gpa, but I know I want to aim higher than that. I want to stay on top of everything in all of my classes, get involved in a lot of extracurricular activities, and maybe start an outside project. I also want to get a job so I can start saving money early. First what I would have to do is stop being lazy. I think that's what has gotten me in trouble over the past 4 years in high school, I would always say I wanted to do things or was going to do them but I was just too lazy to do them. I need to get up off my butt and go to class, no excuses, and make sure I'm on time. I also need to ask around, meet new people, and go visit new places so that I can learn more about Columbia and all it has to offer. I also need to network and communicate with other majors to make my projects a reality. I've learned that if I want to make things happen I have to go to them, I can't wait for them to come to me and I can't be slow about it because there are a million other people out there who want the exact same thing that I do.
I think my biggest obstacle will probably be my social life. I always feel the need to be texting, or on the phone, or on the computer, or going out with friends and since Chicago is still so new to me there's so many places I want to go that don't involve school. Since the bridge program started, every time I've wanted go out I'd always have to remind myself that I have to get all of my homework done first before I can go anywhere or make any phone calls or do anything social that might distract me. I think what will help is if I write daily reminders to myself to stay on top of what's important and put everything else second, and I think my roommates will keep me on top of my game because none of us want to see the other person flunk out. I also need to remind myself that I'm an adult now and that my parents are no longer jumping down my throat to get things done so if I don't stay on top of things, it's all on me and I will be the one who has to pay the consequences in the end. So far, even over just these short 4 weeks I think I have improved in my homework and studying, and I think the bridge program has really helped me mature and I feel more confident that coming into Columbia I can actually do this and that I could maintain a good gpa throughout these 4 years.
If I could have a perfect semester, I would want to have a least a 3.0 gpa, but I know I want to aim higher than that. I want to stay on top of everything in all of my classes, get involved in a lot of extracurricular activities, and maybe start an outside project. I also want to get a job so I can start saving money early. First what I would have to do is stop being lazy. I think that's what has gotten me in trouble over the past 4 years in high school, I would always say I wanted to do things or was going to do them but I was just too lazy to do them. I need to get up off my butt and go to class, no excuses, and make sure I'm on time. I also need to ask around, meet new people, and go visit new places so that I can learn more about Columbia and all it has to offer. I also need to network and communicate with other majors to make my projects a reality. I've learned that if I want to make things happen I have to go to them, I can't wait for them to come to me and I can't be slow about it because there are a million other people out there who want the exact same thing that I do.
I think my biggest obstacle will probably be my social life. I always feel the need to be texting, or on the phone, or on the computer, or going out with friends and since Chicago is still so new to me there's so many places I want to go that don't involve school. Since the bridge program started, every time I've wanted go out I'd always have to remind myself that I have to get all of my homework done first before I can go anywhere or make any phone calls or do anything social that might distract me. I think what will help is if I write daily reminders to myself to stay on top of what's important and put everything else second, and I think my roommates will keep me on top of my game because none of us want to see the other person flunk out. I also need to remind myself that I'm an adult now and that my parents are no longer jumping down my throat to get things done so if I don't stay on top of things, it's all on me and I will be the one who has to pay the consequences in the end. So far, even over just these short 4 weeks I think I have improved in my homework and studying, and I think the bridge program has really helped me mature and I feel more confident that coming into Columbia I can actually do this and that I could maintain a good gpa throughout these 4 years.
Kyle Rich- LAST BRIDGE RESPONSE
Over the entire course of bridge and prepping for my college experience, i have witnessed and experienced independence like none other. I know my study habits as in when is best for me, and when is worst, and especially my environment where i plan to study. I’ve always known in college that you have the option to not show up to class or get loaded instead of doing a homework assignment; however I’ve never experienced it. Now after realizing it first hand, i know that i have the desire, motivation, will, and ambition to do everything accordingly. It is too soon to say, but in my heart and mind, i have already vowed to never miss a class unless I’m too sick to stand up straight. I know and have partaken in all the typical college banter that is prevalent during down time, and i have and know i can still party and fool around, just as long as i get my things done first. And that’s how it's worked. I still think though before September 7th, i could still put in more study time and effort as it could never hurt.
I close my eyes and imagine my perfect semester. Coming to class accordingly, make tight with my professors, not only do my work, but kick ass as well, making connections, joining clubs and organizations, starting my portfolio of my writings and works, get published, begin to know the city like the back of my hand, and keep close and busy with multiple small circles of groups and friends.
The only thing i am worried about is my "fuck it" attitude that i can develop. I am glad to say that my three and a half weeks in Chicago, i have not come close to having a bad day, and i am going to plan my best to keep it that way for the rest of the time i am here. But once in awhile when i get extremely down, or depressed, i lose focus of what is important around me, and i feel like it could affect my school work in a negative way if this happens. I really need to hold high to my priorities, and do my best to keep two personas. One is my in class persona, where the outside world doesn’t matter one bit, and i try to stay professional as humanly possibly while at the same time trying to deliver smiles to those nearby and try to have a good time while doing it. This goes for studying and creative expression as well. However, when i am in my other persona, i try to be as least serious as possible and even to the extent of being a moderate jackass once in a blue moon. All my problems and attitudes will be left with the guy who has nothing to really worry about or anything to do, and i think this balance of two Kyle's can work out to not only his academic life, but his personal one as well.
P.S. - Props to Hafizah and Izzy who at times have made us push ourselves quite hard, but all the while meant nothing but good intentions to find our true college potential, and want to see us do nothing but strive. I love you guys and not only hope to have you as teachers for the future, but keep in touch as well. You guys are great (Except if you fail me of course and then i will hate ya'll forever :)
I close my eyes and imagine my perfect semester. Coming to class accordingly, make tight with my professors, not only do my work, but kick ass as well, making connections, joining clubs and organizations, starting my portfolio of my writings and works, get published, begin to know the city like the back of my hand, and keep close and busy with multiple small circles of groups and friends.
The only thing i am worried about is my "fuck it" attitude that i can develop. I am glad to say that my three and a half weeks in Chicago, i have not come close to having a bad day, and i am going to plan my best to keep it that way for the rest of the time i am here. But once in awhile when i get extremely down, or depressed, i lose focus of what is important around me, and i feel like it could affect my school work in a negative way if this happens. I really need to hold high to my priorities, and do my best to keep two personas. One is my in class persona, where the outside world doesn’t matter one bit, and i try to stay professional as humanly possibly while at the same time trying to deliver smiles to those nearby and try to have a good time while doing it. This goes for studying and creative expression as well. However, when i am in my other persona, i try to be as least serious as possible and even to the extent of being a moderate jackass once in a blue moon. All my problems and attitudes will be left with the guy who has nothing to really worry about or anything to do, and i think this balance of two Kyle's can work out to not only his academic life, but his personal one as well.
P.S. - Props to Hafizah and Izzy who at times have made us push ourselves quite hard, but all the while meant nothing but good intentions to find our true college potential, and want to see us do nothing but strive. I love you guys and not only hope to have you as teachers for the future, but keep in touch as well. You guys are great (Except if you fail me of course and then i will hate ya'll forever :)
Tatum Respondse Final day!
I learned that I was very lazy in my studies and that i have to work harder to suceed in life. I also found out that college is hard and that Im going to put my all into it so make it my 4 years in college. I need to drop my laziness. I always put things on the back burner in stead of doing it at that moment. I will be lazy and say that i will do my work at another time to go do something else in stead of doing it at that moment. Then when the time come that im suspose to do it i never do it and post pone it even more. I have a real bad habit of doing stuff like that. The good habits that i will adapt by then is doing all of my work when its assigned and getting it out the way. Its going to be a little more harder in college but i know ima get threw it. My pecfect semester is a gpa. of 3.75. Thats my perfect semster. My gpa will be that high because i will aplly myself in every way i possiblly can. I will show up on class on time.. turn in homework on time. And keep myself busy at all times. studying. I will set aside about 3 hours of studying a day for my courses. I will do all my work thats needs to be done ahead of time to get it out the way. My personal issues that i may have is that i tend to let my girlfriends get me down. If my present girlfriend gives me a hard time then i will maybe feel depressed about the situation. Academically I feel that if i had the attitude like i had in bridge then im going to make it academically. There should be no reason i shouldnt graduate in 2014.
The precautions that im taking now is that im having less conversations with my girlfriend so i can focus on school and other important things in my life. Those are the precautions im going to take to make it to graduation.
The precautions that im taking now is that im having less conversations with my girlfriend so i can focus on school and other important things in my life. Those are the precautions im going to take to make it to graduation.
Love you guys. Hope we all make it. Thanks Hafizah and Izzy for all you all done for me i apriciate it.
God bless
Tatum Rogers
Ashly: Final day.
The bridge program has taught me alot about myself as well as teaching me good study habits. Since the begining of this program, my old habbits have gone away. I know stidy efficently. I have also learned alot about time managment. I have gotten into a routine where I can balance everything. I have set aside time to study and do homework, that has helped me improve significantly.It has taught me how to prepare for what is to come once school starts. It has also taught me to excpect more out of myself. Even if I do okay work, I know look at it and know I can do better, and work to improve. My life doesn't revolve around things that are errevlient to me. I now know what is important. I have schedualed time in my day to do things I enjoy as well as do my school work, which I never did before.
If I could have the perfect semester it would be to have a schedual where I can fit all my school work and study time, but also to have time left to do things involving my major,to get to know everything that there is to do. I want to be able to explore my major and find new oppertunities for myself. I also want to have time left in my week to do activities that will help me become a better person. I think planning a realistic time schedual will help me do all of the tings I need to do, as well as all of the things I want to do. I think my biggest obstackle will be getting used to the transtions of class, going from high school to college. The time will be so much different. Planning ahead of time will help me fill in my time schedual and keep me on task. I think bridge has prepared me alot for what to expect and what type of work load to expect. Precautions I can take now so I don't fall behind are to begin to plan my time, like we already have in class. I think having to do that really opened up my eyes to how important it is too actually do. I believe everything I do and how secessful I will be all has to do with how well I manage my time. I am here for school and to get a better education and to become the best I can possibly be at what I want to do. Everything that got in my way in high school is not an option anymore, the bridge program helped to realize that. A problem I may personally have is going home to see my family. I know I have plenty of time to get school work done on the bus ride to and from. It is a five hour bus ride, I can do some work on the bus, I would rather use my time to get things done then, rather than to waste my time. I have been home nearly every weekend since the begining of bridge, I have gotten all my work done on the bus so I already know it is a setting where I can work efficently. Although during the semester I do not plan to go home s often as I did during the bridge program. I know it is important to do my homework and study, so that will be my first priority when planning my time mangement schedual. The bridge program has helped me significantly learn how to become a better student, it has helped me correct my old habbits, and over all I strongly believe I have benefitted from taking this program.
If I could have the perfect semester it would be to have a schedual where I can fit all my school work and study time, but also to have time left to do things involving my major,to get to know everything that there is to do. I want to be able to explore my major and find new oppertunities for myself. I also want to have time left in my week to do activities that will help me become a better person. I think planning a realistic time schedual will help me do all of the tings I need to do, as well as all of the things I want to do. I think my biggest obstackle will be getting used to the transtions of class, going from high school to college. The time will be so much different. Planning ahead of time will help me fill in my time schedual and keep me on task. I think bridge has prepared me alot for what to expect and what type of work load to expect. Precautions I can take now so I don't fall behind are to begin to plan my time, like we already have in class. I think having to do that really opened up my eyes to how important it is too actually do. I believe everything I do and how secessful I will be all has to do with how well I manage my time. I am here for school and to get a better education and to become the best I can possibly be at what I want to do. Everything that got in my way in high school is not an option anymore, the bridge program helped to realize that. A problem I may personally have is going home to see my family. I know I have plenty of time to get school work done on the bus ride to and from. It is a five hour bus ride, I can do some work on the bus, I would rather use my time to get things done then, rather than to waste my time. I have been home nearly every weekend since the begining of bridge, I have gotten all my work done on the bus so I already know it is a setting where I can work efficently. Although during the semester I do not plan to go home s often as I did during the bridge program. I know it is important to do my homework and study, so that will be my first priority when planning my time mangement schedual. The bridge program has helped me significantly learn how to become a better student, it has helped me correct my old habbits, and over all I strongly believe I have benefitted from taking this program.
Final Day 10: Chris
Final Response:
Throughout the bridge program my confidence in my work and for college has been steadily escalating. I no longer doubt my work or feel that its not good enough. I now see school as a chance to learn and improve on the daily. My habit of waking up and not looking forward to school has been replaced with a new habit of waking up and looking forward to another learning experience. I don't even procrastinate as much and I've even developed a schedule of when to do my work from class. I don't think any of this would have happened if I didn't attend the bridge program and because of it everything is starting to work out for the better. I've picked up nothing but good habits by being and even lost a few. To have the perfect semester I would have to continue doing so.
My perfect semester would involve good grades, a maintainable social life, and having all my financial issues taking care of. All of this is within reach and I just have to work hard at it and not slack not even for a second. People have always told me I am capable of good grades and last year I started believing that and the bridge program is furthering my belief. This mentality just has to carry over to the school year as well as my willingness to do the work. The bridge program has also taught me to be a bit more friendly and more open to others. Columbia is all about networking and I'm pretty good at that but as always there's room for improvement. I've learn to forget about first impressions and to just learn more about the person themselves by being around them. There are so many interesting people in this world and I want them to know and vice versa. In the end it will all be worth it since there's no such thing as too many people knowing about you. Plus that's more people to show your work too, never who might know somebody important. Taking care of my financial issues during the problem has taught me to be more independent and more on top of my own stuff. This will cause me to get the information I seek on my own without someone holding my hand throughout the entire ordeal. Being independent is something I'm still learning how to do, but it comes with time.
The biggest obstacle I will face during the school year is myself. I get lazy, doubtful, and I put off work a lot. I will pride myself on staying on top of my work and making sure I overcome myself. I feel that there's no other bigger obstacle than myself, because at the end of the day I make all the decisions whether it be good or bad. I want to make sure this school year I make a majority of positive choices. Seeing as no one is perfect I know a few mistakes will be made, but I will make sure I learn from them and work to improve on the mistake I made. With all the talk of how serious college and getting a preview of how it will be I can honestly say I'm ready. No slip ups will be made and I will use all my resources to the highest extent.
Throughout the bridge program my confidence in my work and for college has been steadily escalating. I no longer doubt my work or feel that its not good enough. I now see school as a chance to learn and improve on the daily. My habit of waking up and not looking forward to school has been replaced with a new habit of waking up and looking forward to another learning experience. I don't even procrastinate as much and I've even developed a schedule of when to do my work from class. I don't think any of this would have happened if I didn't attend the bridge program and because of it everything is starting to work out for the better. I've picked up nothing but good habits by being and even lost a few. To have the perfect semester I would have to continue doing so.
My perfect semester would involve good grades, a maintainable social life, and having all my financial issues taking care of. All of this is within reach and I just have to work hard at it and not slack not even for a second. People have always told me I am capable of good grades and last year I started believing that and the bridge program is furthering my belief. This mentality just has to carry over to the school year as well as my willingness to do the work. The bridge program has also taught me to be a bit more friendly and more open to others. Columbia is all about networking and I'm pretty good at that but as always there's room for improvement. I've learn to forget about first impressions and to just learn more about the person themselves by being around them. There are so many interesting people in this world and I want them to know and vice versa. In the end it will all be worth it since there's no such thing as too many people knowing about you. Plus that's more people to show your work too, never who might know somebody important. Taking care of my financial issues during the problem has taught me to be more independent and more on top of my own stuff. This will cause me to get the information I seek on my own without someone holding my hand throughout the entire ordeal. Being independent is something I'm still learning how to do, but it comes with time.
The biggest obstacle I will face during the school year is myself. I get lazy, doubtful, and I put off work a lot. I will pride myself on staying on top of my work and making sure I overcome myself. I feel that there's no other bigger obstacle than myself, because at the end of the day I make all the decisions whether it be good or bad. I want to make sure this school year I make a majority of positive choices. Seeing as no one is perfect I know a few mistakes will be made, but I will make sure I learn from them and work to improve on the mistake I made. With all the talk of how serious college and getting a preview of how it will be I can honestly say I'm ready. No slip ups will be made and I will use all my resources to the highest extent.
Final day: Hafizah
Wow.... Where do I begin? First of all I learned that college is not the walk in the park that people say it is sometimes. My mentality about this program was "I'm seriously not going to be able to do this." But after just getting really into it and learning so much, It became one the most amazing experiences I've even had. Before coming here, I had such little faith what would be accomplished here. I felt like in a way, this program would just make me flunk out and like join a rodeo clown show. But being in here has been such a life changing and eye opening experience. I learned to believe in myself and in the things I want to do with my future. I learned about art and how beautiful it could be. At my school, we never really had field trips or even major art classes where you could see what other students were capable of doing and here in the Bridge, I learned how a sculpture can represent your passion, your life, your soul, and even a loved one. I learned that a book can open your mind and help you explore and learn about what's beyond your comfort zone. When I read Persepolis, I was totally just blown away by how this woman potrayed her story to the world and just showed this amazing side of how life was for her during those hard times in Iran. She also made me see that even someone who is going through more major and harder things than me is able to overcome them to achieve her dreams. In all the lectures, I pulled something that pertained to not only my major, but to me personally. From the first speaker who spoke about this impacting Holocaust project to the zombie guy who should just how "zombie" we are. I think that if I had the choice to be in the bridge again, I'd do it. Yea, it was rough sometimes and even stressful, but I feel like I really needed this. To have two teachers who kept pushing and pushing and pushing to have us prepare for what we are going to face in the future.Being in the program just showed me so much more of why I wanted to come here and be apart of this. Being here is where I want to make my mark. I want to be able to hold over my head that "Yea, I did graduate from Columbia. And I loved it." For bad habits, I'd say I have to learn not to be such a big procrasinator and also start to really see that this is what I need to do to succeed and get that dream job I've been dying to have. Good habits would be studying hard,interacting more in class, and basically getting really into the subjects at hand. My perfect semester would be going to all of my classes, getting amazing grades, keeping good study habits, and know lots of people in Columbia. I want to be able to make that effort to going to my classes on time and engaging myself a lot in the subjects and different aspects of it. Studying would definietly be a way to get those good grades and getting a really good GPA. Plus I've always really wanted to have a really good one.And I want to socialize and get to know people, so being shy has to be put aside. So when I come here, I can socialize but don't let it get out of control. I can't let it take over my life here and mess up my grades and academics.
I'm not going to lie. Something that will be an obstacle for being here would be the doubts my parents might have of me actually styudyung and doing my work. They know I can do the work and succeed but they start to get reluctant at times and start questioning me at an given moment. To prevent that, I want to sometimes call up my mom and just inform her of what's going on class wise and that I'm ok with this or might need help with that. Just so they know I'm not extremly struggling or procrasinating a lot. Personally, It'll be adapting to a new campus. Having to get used to the way that things are and the way it's such a big city. I come from a city that everyone knows everyone so now, it's like wow... I need friends. =) but i know if I make the right friends, which are people who are as dedicated as me and are not trouble makers, I'll be at a good stand still.
This bridge program was amazing. I'm really glad I was offered this opportunity to come her, learn new thngs, meet great people, have kick ass teachers, and have a great kick off to my year here. Possibly my year here. =)
THANKS TO HAFIZAH AND IZZY FOR EVERYTHING!!
And to everyone of my English classmates: It was a joy having you guys in class. I laughed, I cried, and made great friends. Now don't be strangers on campus and always remember to believe in your self and the rest will follow... PEACE!
N@Ti* PuNk
I'm not going to lie. Something that will be an obstacle for being here would be the doubts my parents might have of me actually styudyung and doing my work. They know I can do the work and succeed but they start to get reluctant at times and start questioning me at an given moment. To prevent that, I want to sometimes call up my mom and just inform her of what's going on class wise and that I'm ok with this or might need help with that. Just so they know I'm not extremly struggling or procrasinating a lot. Personally, It'll be adapting to a new campus. Having to get used to the way that things are and the way it's such a big city. I come from a city that everyone knows everyone so now, it's like wow... I need friends. =) but i know if I make the right friends, which are people who are as dedicated as me and are not trouble makers, I'll be at a good stand still.
This bridge program was amazing. I'm really glad I was offered this opportunity to come her, learn new thngs, meet great people, have kick ass teachers, and have a great kick off to my year here. Possibly my year here. =)
THANKS TO HAFIZAH AND IZZY FOR EVERYTHING!!
And to everyone of my English classmates: It was a joy having you guys in class. I laughed, I cried, and made great friends. Now don't be strangers on campus and always remember to believe in your self and the rest will follow... PEACE!
N@Ti* PuNk
Carmelo: Last day response
In the past 4 weeks while being at the bridge i learned a lot about college life and how it will not be easy, it takes time and effort to get it right. I also learned that i just need to be more focused on the assignment and really understand what i am doing and why to really get through the college work. One of the major habits i need to change before September 7th is procrastination, i need to make sure i get my assignments done and not put them to side until the end of the day.I also really need to adapt a time managed lifestyle, i am so use of doing things at the moment that i have never really managed my time of what needs to get done and when or how.
A perfect semester to me is getting all my work done on time with straight A's and on top of that being able to hangout with friends, party and do my art of Audio and Dj. To do all of this i am going to have to learn how to say no to my friends that want to hangout during the week or party during the weekend so i can get all or any of my work done and make sure it is my best quality of work before enjoying myself.
Again my major obstacle is procrastination, no one else is stopping me from getting my work done except for me. I am going to really have to get into my studies and make them interesting to me. My personal life is not too bad because the people i have surrounded myself with understand that school is important and support me and understand i need to get my homework done before going out to the movies or park, when my friends ask me to go out and i tell them i have homework they actually tell me i can't go out and need to finish my homework.
A precaution i can take to over come procrastination is probably when i get homework is to shut off myself from the electronic world of cellphone, TV, and internet and get right into studying. This does seem a little extreme but its the only way i feel i will be able to not procrastinate and i definitely understand that it is easier said than done but i am willing to put the time and effort into this change to better my future not only at Columbia College but also the rest of my life.
A perfect semester to me is getting all my work done on time with straight A's and on top of that being able to hangout with friends, party and do my art of Audio and Dj. To do all of this i am going to have to learn how to say no to my friends that want to hangout during the week or party during the weekend so i can get all or any of my work done and make sure it is my best quality of work before enjoying myself.
Again my major obstacle is procrastination, no one else is stopping me from getting my work done except for me. I am going to really have to get into my studies and make them interesting to me. My personal life is not too bad because the people i have surrounded myself with understand that school is important and support me and understand i need to get my homework done before going out to the movies or park, when my friends ask me to go out and i tell them i have homework they actually tell me i can't go out and need to finish my homework.
A precaution i can take to over come procrastination is probably when i get homework is to shut off myself from the electronic world of cellphone, TV, and internet and get right into studying. This does seem a little extreme but its the only way i feel i will be able to not procrastinate and i definitely understand that it is easier said than done but i am willing to put the time and effort into this change to better my future not only at Columbia College but also the rest of my life.
Final Day- Megan Schaus
The Bridge Program proved to me that I have what it takes to handle college. It has confirmed that I am mentally prepared to take on a new enviorment and prepare for my future. It made me realize that this isn't high school anymore, and I am on my own. I am responsible for the decisions I make. By being a part of the Bridge Program, I feel it has matured me, and forced me to grow up. By September 7th, I feel I have to work on my organization skills, and buy things such as planners, to catagorize my time. I need to eliminate some hours from my work schedule, and prepare to use the majority of my free time studying.
My perfect semester would be flawless, meaning A's in every class, a growing gpa, and comfort and confidence in all of my classes. To achieve this, I know I am going to have to try as hard as I can, and work the hardest I have ever worked, but in the end I know it will be worth it. I know in my heart, that Columbia College is where I want to be. I know that I will be sucessful and it will bring out the best person in me. Theres no words to explain how excited I would be to begin my future here.
In my head I see my time spent at Columbia, flawless, but I know there will always be challanges and conflicts that come along the way. Four weeks ago, I would have said that I would think participation would have been a problem for me in college, but after the Bridge Program I feel comfortable talking outloud and actually expressing my thoughts. I enjoy raising my hand and sharing my ideas with other people. If I had to think of a possible acedemic conflict, it would most likely be being a full time student and working. As of now, I work 35 hours a week. I realize that I will have to cut down when the school year begins. I will then only be working 7-10 hours a week. I think I will have what it takes to make this work, and I am going to try my hardest to balance my time with both. if it doesn't work out, I will quit my job, because going to Columbia is far more important to me. I really love my job, but I am willing to give that all up for this school. In four to five years, I am going to walk across the stage. Why? Because, I am going to try harder than I have ever tried in my life. I know I have what it takes to make this work. I am not going to let my high school ways slow me down. We all are lucky enough to start with a clean slate, but I am going to make it a goal and not get it dirty.
My perfect semester would be flawless, meaning A's in every class, a growing gpa, and comfort and confidence in all of my classes. To achieve this, I know I am going to have to try as hard as I can, and work the hardest I have ever worked, but in the end I know it will be worth it. I know in my heart, that Columbia College is where I want to be. I know that I will be sucessful and it will bring out the best person in me. Theres no words to explain how excited I would be to begin my future here.
In my head I see my time spent at Columbia, flawless, but I know there will always be challanges and conflicts that come along the way. Four weeks ago, I would have said that I would think participation would have been a problem for me in college, but after the Bridge Program I feel comfortable talking outloud and actually expressing my thoughts. I enjoy raising my hand and sharing my ideas with other people. If I had to think of a possible acedemic conflict, it would most likely be being a full time student and working. As of now, I work 35 hours a week. I realize that I will have to cut down when the school year begins. I will then only be working 7-10 hours a week. I think I will have what it takes to make this work, and I am going to try my hardest to balance my time with both. if it doesn't work out, I will quit my job, because going to Columbia is far more important to me. I really love my job, but I am willing to give that all up for this school. In four to five years, I am going to walk across the stage. Why? Because, I am going to try harder than I have ever tried in my life. I know I have what it takes to make this work. I am not going to let my high school ways slow me down. We all are lucky enough to start with a clean slate, but I am going to make it a goal and not get it dirty.
Bridge: Final Day!
What have you learned over the course of bridge about yourself and about college? What bad habits do think you need to drop before September 7th? What good habits might you need to adopt by then?
If you could have a perfect semester, what would that look like? Describe it. Now, what would you have to do, starting now, and over the course of the semester to make that perfect semester a reality?
And finally, since there is no such thing as perfect, what do you think will be your biggest impediment or obstacle to having a successful semester both academically and personally? What precautions can you take now to help overcome those?
If you could have a perfect semester, what would that look like? Describe it. Now, what would you have to do, starting now, and over the course of the semester to make that perfect semester a reality?
And finally, since there is no such thing as perfect, what do you think will be your biggest impediment or obstacle to having a successful semester both academically and personally? What precautions can you take now to help overcome those?
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
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Monday, August 23, 2010
Bashkim Day 14 Response
Carmelo
I feel like if Marjane stayed in Iraq and did not go to Austria, she would not be as mature as she would be if she went to Austria. For her, staying in Iraq is no change and what I mean by change is her forming into a young lady and seeing the world in a different perspective. I think that she would not see the world as it is if she stayed in Iraq because she is already used to the war and she sees how people are in pain because of it. Being in Austria will definitely turn her into more of a young lady because she is away from her family and all of their troubles. The reason the boys are in jail is because of the influences they have had in their lives. If they were to grow up in a suburban area, their chances of going jail would be very slim. If I grew up with people that would tend to do bad things, I would probably be doing the same thing because everyone around me is doing it. I would feel left out in a way, so I’d let peer pressure get to me and attempt the actions that I wouldn’t do if I grew up in the suburbs. “I wish that knew what I know now when I was younger.” If I was sent off to another country to live on my own at the tender age of 14, I think that I would not have a chance because when I was at that age, I was still imagining things and more naive than I am now. The real world really hit me when high school started but since I wasn’t in high school when I was 14, I did not know as much as I do now. I am very glad that I know what I know today.
Natalia
I think that the parents of the kids that are in mark’s class would be, or at least should be proud of their kids. The boys have over some an obstacle in their lives and that obstacle was looking in the mirror and realizing what they really were. Some parents might not like the idea of their kids growing up in the real world because they care so much for them and that can lead to problems with the parents. It is hard to let go but a time comes in your life where you need to let one go and let them grow to what they were meant to be. The boys thought that the whole gang scene was what they thought they belonged to and so they gave in to it. Parents will not be happy with that they might feel like they weren’t good enough parents. But when it comes to nature vs. nurture, I believe nature wins the war. The boys could have come from happy and rich families for all we know. What matters is how the individual really is. I really started to be more independent in the middle of my junior year in high school. My parents were not too fond of it because they felt like I was neglecting the family and to them it seemed like I did not want to be a part the family. I am just living my life and I am doing the things I need and want to do. They felt like I was drifting away from them but really I was only trying to be myself with no bad intentions. Everyone changes and junior year was when it happened. It transitioned very slowly but my parents caught on and did not like the idea of it for some reason. We all have things to do in life and that was what I was simply doing; Being myself.
I feel like if Marjane stayed in Iraq and did not go to Austria, she would not be as mature as she would be if she went to Austria. For her, staying in Iraq is no change and what I mean by change is her forming into a young lady and seeing the world in a different perspective. I think that she would not see the world as it is if she stayed in Iraq because she is already used to the war and she sees how people are in pain because of it. Being in Austria will definitely turn her into more of a young lady because she is away from her family and all of their troubles. The reason the boys are in jail is because of the influences they have had in their lives. If they were to grow up in a suburban area, their chances of going jail would be very slim. If I grew up with people that would tend to do bad things, I would probably be doing the same thing because everyone around me is doing it. I would feel left out in a way, so I’d let peer pressure get to me and attempt the actions that I wouldn’t do if I grew up in the suburbs. “I wish that knew what I know now when I was younger.” If I was sent off to another country to live on my own at the tender age of 14, I think that I would not have a chance because when I was at that age, I was still imagining things and more naive than I am now. The real world really hit me when high school started but since I wasn’t in high school when I was 14, I did not know as much as I do now. I am very glad that I know what I know today.
Natalia
I think that the parents of the kids that are in mark’s class would be, or at least should be proud of their kids. The boys have over some an obstacle in their lives and that obstacle was looking in the mirror and realizing what they really were. Some parents might not like the idea of their kids growing up in the real world because they care so much for them and that can lead to problems with the parents. It is hard to let go but a time comes in your life where you need to let one go and let them grow to what they were meant to be. The boys thought that the whole gang scene was what they thought they belonged to and so they gave in to it. Parents will not be happy with that they might feel like they weren’t good enough parents. But when it comes to nature vs. nurture, I believe nature wins the war. The boys could have come from happy and rich families for all we know. What matters is how the individual really is. I really started to be more independent in the middle of my junior year in high school. My parents were not too fond of it because they felt like I was neglecting the family and to them it seemed like I did not want to be a part the family. I am just living my life and I am doing the things I need and want to do. They felt like I was drifting away from them but really I was only trying to be myself with no bad intentions. Everyone changes and junior year was when it happened. It transitioned very slowly but my parents caught on and did not like the idea of it for some reason. We all have things to do in life and that was what I was simply doing; Being myself.
Day 14: Allie
Carmelo
When it comes to the boys in True Notebooks, I think if they grew up in a different neighborhood but had the same family they may or may not have found a different lifestyle. A lot of the boys have been influenced based on their family life, so I believe if they were raised in a different neighborhood with the same family and their family had a better lifestyle, their lives would be better too. Although I think some of the boys are smart enough to realize that if it's only their family making bad decisions and everyone else in their neighborhood is living the right way they would live the right way too. You can't choose the family you're born into, but you can change the way it affects your life. If these boys lived in a different neighborhood they might've had more options available to them instead of feeling like joining a gang was their only way out or a way to fit in. A lot of it has to do with unfortunate situations they've been put into and not necessarily that they like the life they live. Most of them don't and most of them realize it's not the life they want to live when they get out of prison. Had they had chances sooner or maybe taken them while they had the chance it would've prevented them from making bad decisions and ending up in prison. Like Dana Gioio said in his speech, it's all about location and geography. When you're in a place where you have many opportunities, you're more likely to go out and take advantage of what's around you. That's why so many people who live in less fortunate neighborhoods often get into careless violent activites, because that's all they're around and that's all they know. If these boys had support from their family and community 100%, I have no doubt that they would be in a better off situation, with a new and better chance for their life.
If I was sent off to live on my own at the age of fourteen, I honestly think I would be able to survive. I've always been very mature for my age and even though at fourteen I wasn't as mature as I am now, I knew a lot about the world and my surroundings. I feel like it's easy for me to adapt in almost any situation, having been thrown into so many in my life that being sent to live on my own would be no problem. I've always been an independent person; my parents separated when I was four and even though I've been close with my mom my whole life I'm an only child so when she was at work, which was almost always, I would be at home alone and have to cook and clean and do everything by myself. I like having her do things for me, but if possible I could do it all for myself. I think I would definitely look at the world in a different way if I was sent to live alone when I was fourteen, and I might be more isolated and lonely now but I think I would be very capable of it. Sure there are things that would be totally new and probably scary to me, but I think it might've given me a chance to grow up quicker and maybe avoid some of the stupid mistakes that most teenagers make.
Natalia
In True Notebooks, a lot of the boys have mentioned how ashamed their mothers were of them and how they were trying to change for their mother. I think that their mothers are hurt and upset that their teenage sons have gotten into a lifestyle where they may end up being locked up in prison forever, but I also think that if their moms could see how they are in writing class they would be impressed. Although they may get into fights with other prisoners every once in a while or break some of the rules, when they go into Mark's writing class they are well behaved boys for the most part, or at least trying to be, and their writing is actually really good. I think their moms would be proud to know that they're actually trying to change, and that they are not only changing for themselves but for their moms as well. A lot of them want to take back the hurt they've caused and are trying to feel empathy for their family and the situations they've put them in. Even if they end up convicted for life, I think their mothers would be proud to see their writing and really show that they love their moms, and hope that they will eventually get the love in return and maybe even forgiveness.
When I started growing up and developing into a teenager, I think my parents were horrified. With me being the only child, they had never experienced raising a pre-teen daughter and as I got older although I was still a polite well-behaved person, I was turning into an overly social, boy crazy teenager. I would constantly want to go out with my friends, ask for money all the time to go out to eat, or to the mall, or to the movies. I would have a new crush every week and my mom caught me on the phone talking about how cute I thought a guy was all the time. I think it kind of freaked them out because I had gone from a happy innocent child who hated all boys and thought they had cooties to being boy obsessed and addicted to shopping. I think it's like that for all parents though; when you mature into a teenager and then into adult you're bound to change, it's just a matter of how much you change and if it's for the better or for the worse. I definitely had my rough phase where I'm sure my parents had no idea what to do with me, and I've gotten into more trouble as I've gotten older but sometimes I think it's a way of life. The important thing to remember is that you learn from your mistakes, and to not do flat out stupid things. I've driven with more than one person in the car when I wasn't supposed to and came home an hour after my mom told me to be, but I've never made stupid decisions where I've had to think to myself "could I end up in prison for this?" I do believe everything happens for a reason though, and I think that if I hadn't been such a crazy person in high school, I wouldn't be the person I am now. I say that because of an incident that happened in the middle of my senior year which landed me here at Columbia. I've wanted to go to college in LA since I was twelve years old, and my mom made me come to school here because she didn't trust me being far away. I am so glad she sent me here and made me join the bridge program because right now I feel like Chicago and Columbia College is the perfect place to me. Even though it took a screw up for me to realize this is where I was supposed to be, I'm glad that it happened rather than me moving all the way out to LA and hating it. Change is bound to happen within everyone as you grow up, I just believe that it all depends on how you handle those changes.
When it comes to the boys in True Notebooks, I think if they grew up in a different neighborhood but had the same family they may or may not have found a different lifestyle. A lot of the boys have been influenced based on their family life, so I believe if they were raised in a different neighborhood with the same family and their family had a better lifestyle, their lives would be better too. Although I think some of the boys are smart enough to realize that if it's only their family making bad decisions and everyone else in their neighborhood is living the right way they would live the right way too. You can't choose the family you're born into, but you can change the way it affects your life. If these boys lived in a different neighborhood they might've had more options available to them instead of feeling like joining a gang was their only way out or a way to fit in. A lot of it has to do with unfortunate situations they've been put into and not necessarily that they like the life they live. Most of them don't and most of them realize it's not the life they want to live when they get out of prison. Had they had chances sooner or maybe taken them while they had the chance it would've prevented them from making bad decisions and ending up in prison. Like Dana Gioio said in his speech, it's all about location and geography. When you're in a place where you have many opportunities, you're more likely to go out and take advantage of what's around you. That's why so many people who live in less fortunate neighborhoods often get into careless violent activites, because that's all they're around and that's all they know. If these boys had support from their family and community 100%, I have no doubt that they would be in a better off situation, with a new and better chance for their life.
If I was sent off to live on my own at the age of fourteen, I honestly think I would be able to survive. I've always been very mature for my age and even though at fourteen I wasn't as mature as I am now, I knew a lot about the world and my surroundings. I feel like it's easy for me to adapt in almost any situation, having been thrown into so many in my life that being sent to live on my own would be no problem. I've always been an independent person; my parents separated when I was four and even though I've been close with my mom my whole life I'm an only child so when she was at work, which was almost always, I would be at home alone and have to cook and clean and do everything by myself. I like having her do things for me, but if possible I could do it all for myself. I think I would definitely look at the world in a different way if I was sent to live alone when I was fourteen, and I might be more isolated and lonely now but I think I would be very capable of it. Sure there are things that would be totally new and probably scary to me, but I think it might've given me a chance to grow up quicker and maybe avoid some of the stupid mistakes that most teenagers make.
Natalia
In True Notebooks, a lot of the boys have mentioned how ashamed their mothers were of them and how they were trying to change for their mother. I think that their mothers are hurt and upset that their teenage sons have gotten into a lifestyle where they may end up being locked up in prison forever, but I also think that if their moms could see how they are in writing class they would be impressed. Although they may get into fights with other prisoners every once in a while or break some of the rules, when they go into Mark's writing class they are well behaved boys for the most part, or at least trying to be, and their writing is actually really good. I think their moms would be proud to know that they're actually trying to change, and that they are not only changing for themselves but for their moms as well. A lot of them want to take back the hurt they've caused and are trying to feel empathy for their family and the situations they've put them in. Even if they end up convicted for life, I think their mothers would be proud to see their writing and really show that they love their moms, and hope that they will eventually get the love in return and maybe even forgiveness.
When I started growing up and developing into a teenager, I think my parents were horrified. With me being the only child, they had never experienced raising a pre-teen daughter and as I got older although I was still a polite well-behaved person, I was turning into an overly social, boy crazy teenager. I would constantly want to go out with my friends, ask for money all the time to go out to eat, or to the mall, or to the movies. I would have a new crush every week and my mom caught me on the phone talking about how cute I thought a guy was all the time. I think it kind of freaked them out because I had gone from a happy innocent child who hated all boys and thought they had cooties to being boy obsessed and addicted to shopping. I think it's like that for all parents though; when you mature into a teenager and then into adult you're bound to change, it's just a matter of how much you change and if it's for the better or for the worse. I definitely had my rough phase where I'm sure my parents had no idea what to do with me, and I've gotten into more trouble as I've gotten older but sometimes I think it's a way of life. The important thing to remember is that you learn from your mistakes, and to not do flat out stupid things. I've driven with more than one person in the car when I wasn't supposed to and came home an hour after my mom told me to be, but I've never made stupid decisions where I've had to think to myself "could I end up in prison for this?" I do believe everything happens for a reason though, and I think that if I hadn't been such a crazy person in high school, I wouldn't be the person I am now. I say that because of an incident that happened in the middle of my senior year which landed me here at Columbia. I've wanted to go to college in LA since I was twelve years old, and my mom made me come to school here because she didn't trust me being far away. I am so glad she sent me here and made me join the bridge program because right now I feel like Chicago and Columbia College is the perfect place to me. Even though it took a screw up for me to realize this is where I was supposed to be, I'm glad that it happened rather than me moving all the way out to LA and hating it. Change is bound to happen within everyone as you grow up, I just believe that it all depends on how you handle those changes.
Respondse 13
Carmelo:Im going to go both ways with this answer. I feel that if they were in a different neighbor hood it will be the same. If your house hold is very messed up like your father molesting you or something then he/she might snap and maybe kill that parent. It doesnt matter where they live in a $300 house or a $3,000,000 house. If crazy things are going on behind close doors then there is going to be a problem there. There are stories of rich people going to jail. Maybe it llooks pretty on the outside but not the in. I also feel that the different neighbor hood will help them. The surronding of where they live may cause stress on the parents. The parents may want there son or daughter iin a resonavble area. SO everytime the kid does something the parent will sometimes take out there anger on the kid. Parents may hurt you either mental or phycically. If the house hold was in a better comunnity then alot of the stress wouldnt of hapen the way they did. Peopel will have more money bill will be able to get paid and there will be alot of food on the table. Thats why im going both ways wiyth this responds.
If i was 14 on my own I will be lost in life. I woulnt be as mature as i am now. I will not be a social as i am now. I will be very scared and will not know where to turn or where to go. I will be alone alot of times because i wont be readdy at the age of 14. My money management skills were horrible. I will always be broke.
If i was 14 on my own I will be lost in life. I woulnt be as mature as i am now. I will not be a social as i am now. I will be very scared and will not know where to turn or where to go. I will be alone alot of times because i wont be readdy at the age of 14. My money management skills were horrible. I will always be broke.
Day 14 Response- Kyle Rich
Carmelo- Yes. I do strongly believe that Marjane would have a different view on the world without a doubt. While she was in Iran, her limitations to culture, education, and freedom all had a limit on them. And now that she has broken out of the country, she has began to assimilate into Western Culture. She has begun to live through and embrace all that she has been kept from, and it has without a doubt added to her knowledge and influence of who she is currently. She never was the type to be closed minded, but however there were just things and aspects she was unaware of. After she left boarding school and stayed with her friend, she began to pick up on and realize some of the more typical teenage behaviors. Where she comes from, smoking, drinking, and have pre-marital relations are extremely frowned upon and dismissed. But when she meets with other teenagers from a different part of the world, it becomes glorified in that culture. Maybe the boys in True Notebooks would have had a better advantage if they did not come from the ghettos. If they lived in a sunny and gated community, things maybe wouldn’t have seemed so desperate and hopeless for them. They wouldn't see the desperations and troubles of the street life and realize they wouldn't have to do it. If they had a nice comfortable house to return to, they would realize how grateful they were, and they did not need anymore. If i was sent away, i would and did survive regardless. Although things anywhere or a move is difficult, i have gone through this a few times and realized that after two weeks, it is extremely easy to acclimate yourself. I would find myself like Marjane at first, scared, nervous, and just going with the flow. Slowly remembering names, and taking in all the new locations of your surroundings. However, after awhile no matter where, you can always break away and begin to pave your own path.
Natalia- I feel that anything new for anybody always takes some getting used to. I am sure Marjane's mother is not thrilled to see her living with eight gay men, but at the same time she may not understand because i am almost positive being openly gay in Iran would result in punishment or death. Marjane comes from a very educated and non-ignorant family. Although i am sure her mother has no experience in this field, she seems as the type that is open minded and would be accepting to almost anything. It is almost sad to say, but it took me a very long time to mature and get out of my childhood ways. I take care of lots more things on my own and finding independence. I am never told to study or read, but however i tend to just want to do it on my own. I am managing my time extremely well, and ALWAYS am making sure to get my work knocked out of the way before i have fun. I am just now starting to really feel in my heart the change that i am growing up, and not only am i proud of myself, but my parents as well. We have been much closer, when ironically i live away from them. I actually call my parents up and want to strike up conversations. We have started to touch base on new levels. They also repect and accept my decisions. I inform them of all my "immoral" behaviors, but as long as its all in moderation and i continue to strive with school and ambition, why would they care if im drinking and smoking pot? They don't, and they understand small aspects of my lifestyle. I am glad this change has been made, because for awhile i was starting to feel like a Peter Pan, just stuck in my own ways and childhood.
Natalia- I feel that anything new for anybody always takes some getting used to. I am sure Marjane's mother is not thrilled to see her living with eight gay men, but at the same time she may not understand because i am almost positive being openly gay in Iran would result in punishment or death. Marjane comes from a very educated and non-ignorant family. Although i am sure her mother has no experience in this field, she seems as the type that is open minded and would be accepting to almost anything. It is almost sad to say, but it took me a very long time to mature and get out of my childhood ways. I take care of lots more things on my own and finding independence. I am never told to study or read, but however i tend to just want to do it on my own. I am managing my time extremely well, and ALWAYS am making sure to get my work knocked out of the way before i have fun. I am just now starting to really feel in my heart the change that i am growing up, and not only am i proud of myself, but my parents as well. We have been much closer, when ironically i live away from them. I actually call my parents up and want to strike up conversations. We have started to touch base on new levels. They also repect and accept my decisions. I inform them of all my "immoral" behaviors, but as long as its all in moderation and i continue to strive with school and ambition, why would they care if im drinking and smoking pot? They don't, and they understand small aspects of my lifestyle. I am glad this change has been made, because for awhile i was starting to feel like a Peter Pan, just stuck in my own ways and childhood.
Georges Response Day 14
Carmelo
Environment and influence has a major impact on the type of person you are and the life you choose to follow. In my opinion the boys in True Notebooks could be where they are today if they were in another neighborhood but probably not. Family matters have a huge effect on people but it's nothing a kid couldn't avoid, or cope with. The main problem is the lifestyle of a gang. In a different neighborhood there could have been something else to fall back on besides a gang. Maybe the boys would have just had a group of friends that were there to talk to them, instead of crime to gain respect. Now at fourteen years old if I were to be on my own I would be lost. Remembering back when I was fourteen I thought I knew it all, me and my friends were the best. Being on my own and trying to raise myself would be a bad situation, the naivety would set in quickly. I think situations I talked up to handle would quickly shut me right down. Survival wouldn't be a question, I would live everyday. The question is would I be able to go through doing things an average adult would do to survive and survive comfortably? The answer is no.
Natalie
When I was a kid I was a little higher on the maturity level, very quiet, never caused a lot of chaos, people may even said I was a respectable young person. Growing up was easy on the parents and they knew I would be able to handle certain situations like taking public transportation, going out until midnight etc. My parents being the ones that have most trust in me let me go and do my own thing, while still respecting their authority. This has made me a hell of a lot better as a person. I do things now that some people have no idea how to do, like transportation publicly and just not being socially awkward most of the time. My parents are proud of where I stand now as a person and sometimes I take that for granted but they let me know when I take my freedoms to far. Regardless of who it is in True Notebooks I don't think any of there parents would be proud of where they are, some might not even care at all. For the ones that go and see there child I think they see them as if they were home again. Parents should know their kid and the parents visiting know that's not what their child wanted either. So in the end when it comes down to proud or ashamed, no one is proud their child is in jail. Shame is plausible, some might be ashamed, others can believe my child should never be in a place like this.
Environment and influence has a major impact on the type of person you are and the life you choose to follow. In my opinion the boys in True Notebooks could be where they are today if they were in another neighborhood but probably not. Family matters have a huge effect on people but it's nothing a kid couldn't avoid, or cope with. The main problem is the lifestyle of a gang. In a different neighborhood there could have been something else to fall back on besides a gang. Maybe the boys would have just had a group of friends that were there to talk to them, instead of crime to gain respect. Now at fourteen years old if I were to be on my own I would be lost. Remembering back when I was fourteen I thought I knew it all, me and my friends were the best. Being on my own and trying to raise myself would be a bad situation, the naivety would set in quickly. I think situations I talked up to handle would quickly shut me right down. Survival wouldn't be a question, I would live everyday. The question is would I be able to go through doing things an average adult would do to survive and survive comfortably? The answer is no.
Natalie
When I was a kid I was a little higher on the maturity level, very quiet, never caused a lot of chaos, people may even said I was a respectable young person. Growing up was easy on the parents and they knew I would be able to handle certain situations like taking public transportation, going out until midnight etc. My parents being the ones that have most trust in me let me go and do my own thing, while still respecting their authority. This has made me a hell of a lot better as a person. I do things now that some people have no idea how to do, like transportation publicly and just not being socially awkward most of the time. My parents are proud of where I stand now as a person and sometimes I take that for granted but they let me know when I take my freedoms to far. Regardless of who it is in True Notebooks I don't think any of there parents would be proud of where they are, some might not even care at all. For the ones that go and see there child I think they see them as if they were home again. Parents should know their kid and the parents visiting know that's not what their child wanted either. So in the end when it comes down to proud or ashamed, no one is proud their child is in jail. Shame is plausible, some might be ashamed, others can believe my child should never be in a place like this.
Day 14: Richard
Carmelo's Response
Life is like a dice game, you don’t know what the outcome will be when you are born into this place called the world. In Marjane’s case the world she sees now is the violence between two sides that have conflict because they don’t see the world on the same terms. If you look at everybody individually you’ll see that we have all different characteristics some may have the same qualities as you but everyone is different in their own way. Looking back at how things were in Iraq for Marjane is going to be a total difference between her living in Austria. Disrespected because of culture, Marjane is now on her own and has no support or backbone in this situation; at first she thought she can change the world because of her naive prophecies while in Iraq. Now struggling afloat and finding ways to fend for herself is the only thing that matters. In True Notebooks the inmates wouldn’t even be inmates if they were given the chance to live in a place that has structure and an opportunity to succeed in life. Since there circumstances are different from others, you see that these kids resort to crime to fend for their family it’s the only way to provide and if they were to see another to succeed they would definitely take that option. Living on your own can be frustrating because it’s hard to understand life at the age of 14, you wouldn’t even know your wants from your needs so how can you even know what to help you surviving without guidance. I know if I was 14 out the street I wouldn’t even know the first thing to do to provide for myself all I would think of is how can I obtain food for energy and a place to sleep; but in order to get that you have to find a way to obtain some type of income or stealing which is a crime. See now you why people resort to crime, it’s because it’s the easy way around things in this world. Begging for change or running in a store and stealing food? Which one would you choose? It’s all a matter of how you survive, there is always is a hard way and an easy way in life but it all depends on the person to find out which one best fits their personal agenda and their society as a whole.
Natalia’s Response
Marji now seems to be out of place of what her mother’s perception might be. She probably thought that leaving Iraq would help her grow and learn more besides worrying about the outbreak of violence back home. Instead she isn’t in school, she starts to fall in love and now she is running “errands” to provide for herself. She is on her way to failure by society’s standards and no it seems she can’t turn back from where she started. So wrapped up in today’s agenda she seems to forget about her parent’s plans, intentions and expectations. If my mom saw me struggling on the corner she would be horrified of what I’ve become. It is all up to me to change that ordeal; for Marji it seems that she has disappointed her mothers in a lot of ways. I can’t really compare my life to a female so our actions maybe different suppose to me comparing my life with inmates in Central Juvenile Hall. Most of my life I have disappointed my parents and even when I did things that weren’t allowed (and they never found out) I still feel guilty of doing it like smoking and drinking. My mother thinks I’m an angel just like Marji’s mom thinks she is but it is different when you see the other story. When they see that you are not doing the usual they figure you are doing something wrong so they get disappointed off the top without even really finding out what is going on. So all that time away Marji’s mother probably was excitied to see Marji but after seeing what she saw then she probably thought otherwise.
day 14 response
In my opinion I think that if Marjane stayed in Iran she would've suffered. Because she won't be able to get a good education since she has been having problems with her teachers. And I think she would be in danger with the guards of the revolution. Because they are searching for people who aren't dressed properly or other things. And I feel that Marjane won't be able to live a free life because her country is in war. And she has to dress differently and follow the rules. And I feel that she can't live a life without having a good education. For example she is fourteen she is becoming a teenager and I think that she will have a free life in Vienna because she won't have to worry about the bombings in Iran or having to dress the way the people in Iran have to dress. She gets to live the life a teenager would like to live. I just feel that she is young to be going to Vienna on her own. And I understand that her parents want to do what is right for her. And I just think that Marjane has to learn new things on her own. And Marjane wants to become independent I just think that if her parents wanted her to stay she would've been in problems with finding a different school without getting in trouble. Also I think she would suffer in Iran she won't be able to live the life other kids in America would live free. I just feel that Marjane won't be able to take these risks walking around the neighborhood wearing what she wants. So many things could happen to her and with people being executed for reasons that aren't necessary. Also having to go through a tragic situation like that in Iran and how she sees other kids in Iran in the airport going out of the country too. And If I were to leave at age fourteen and not really having that much experience I think I will just have to learn on my own and try to become responsible for myself. And I think I would survive I just would have to face it and deal with it living on my own. Because I would be sent to a different place it's going to be hard having to learn new experiences in my life that I never experienced. I think it's a scary feeling because once your alone you really don't know what could happen at that moment. I would feel scared at first to be on my own without my parents with me and having to survive at fourteen. I would feel like I have to stop becoming a teenager and survive like an adult. And I think that I will do what I have to do to survive and be on my own. Because nobody else is going to help me through it. I just feel that I would probably survive but it's not going to be easy I would have my hard times. And I think if I wouldn't be able to survive anymore I'm not going to stop trying. Because I feel that surviving is the hardest thing to do coming from experience I know everybody just like me in their life had to survive once or many in their life.
Day 14 response- Megan Schaus
Carmelo-
The answer to your question is absolutely. I think where the boys grew up was one of the main reasons they wandered down the wrong path. Where you are raised influenccs the person you will become. I think being pressured by the wrong people, in bad neighborhoods, hs taken over the lives of the boys. Maybe one bad act, turned into many bad acts. Whether it is stealing, assult, or murder, no violent behavior is acceptable, so where they grew up isn't an excuse for acting the ways they did. Unfortunately, after reading True Notebooks I saw incredible potential in the boys, so its a shame they were raised they way they were. It makes me think what kind of people they could have been, and who they were destant to be. I also remember being the age the boys are, and there are many difficulties being a preteen. You go through many hardships and challanges. One main aspect of these challanges, is peer pressure. You can't escape peer pressure, because it follows you where ever you go. The only solution, is don't give in. Sadly, its too late for the kids in True Notebooks, to change their past, but it isn't to late to change their future. Sure, saying "no," and walking away, may be uncomfortable and awkward, but you will most likely end up saving your own life. Believe me, saying "no,"will be worth it in the end.
If I was 14 and sent to live on my own, I wouldn't let myself fail. I would do what it would take to stay alive. I would keep myself positive and strong. I wouldn't let myself fall, even if I had someone to catch me. I would keep my family and friends in my mind, and have that inspire me to make it through each day. I'm definitely not saying it would be easy to be on my own, but I would make it a priority to be okay. I would make it my own responsiblity to take action by keeping myself nourished. I would have prominant belief in myself that would be present from the second I open my eyes, to the second I shut them for the night. I would try my absolute hardest not to become weak. I would depend on having faith in myself, to keep my alive.
Natalia-
I think that the parents would be proud, of making it so far. I wouldn't know, but living in a jail sounds the farthest thing from easy. It sounds not only depressing, but lonely. Yes, they did commit the crime, so they have to pay the time, but theres no reason the boys can't be somewhat reconized. Personally, I don't think I would last a second in jail. I would die of anxiety and the constant thought of getting beat up. When I first started reading True Notebooks, I really admired Jimmy. I thought he had the most character and personality. I also enjoyed his stories. Unfortunately, later in the novel, I learned that Jimmy was caught smoking pot. I was very upset that he had made such a poor decision. I had complete confidence Jimmy was going to start a fresh life, but I was wrong. This proved that old habits do die hard. I think his parents would have been very disappointed in him, considering all of the wrong choices he has made. I considered Jimmy as one of those characters that had incredible potential, but I was very wrong. He was still the same person, as he was in the beginning. I feel sympathy for Jimmy, because I think he feels somewhat trapped in his own life. It must be a terrible feeling of not only dioscomfort, but lonliness. Now Jimmy is the one that really has to pay for all the mistakes he has made.
As I was growing up, watching each birthday pass me by, my parents grew more and more emotional. I am the youngest in the entire family, so it can't be easy watching me get older. My entire family is very close. My parents are divorced, but I have the type of family that is there for me every second of everyday. We are truely inseperable. One main thing my parents worry about is as I get older, that I will drift away from everyone. They are afraid that school, friends, and parties, are going to replace being with them. Little do they know, that there isn't one thing on this earth that I care about more than my family. They are the main focus of my life, and they will always come first. There will never be a day that passes by where I don't think about my family. I am incredibly close with my mom, shes my best friend. I think she worries that as I go off to college, that our relationship isn't going to remain the same. My mom will always have my back, and she will always support me in anything I decide to do with my life. I thank her for forming me into the person I am today, because without her, I wouldn't be me. She has taught me everything I have to know to be successful in life, and she is always there for me when I need her. I can only hope that one day I will end up the person she is. She has no idea how much I look up to her, and respect her. She has always been my role model, and will always be my role model. She has gone through so many awful things, that it is truly a miracle she is the person that she is today. I feel sorry for the inmates at Central, because they most likely never had this. If I didn't have the unconditional love that my mom has for me daily, I would probably be in trouble now too. But whenever I feel like taking a risk or doing something that puts me in danger, I think of how my mom would have to go through life without me here, and I suddenly want nothing to do with it anymore. Who knows, if we didn't have the relationship we have, I could be in the same position that the inmates are in. I could be addicted to drugs or alcohol, but I'm not. My mom is my hero, and shes saved my life.
The answer to your question is absolutely. I think where the boys grew up was one of the main reasons they wandered down the wrong path. Where you are raised influenccs the person you will become. I think being pressured by the wrong people, in bad neighborhoods, hs taken over the lives of the boys. Maybe one bad act, turned into many bad acts. Whether it is stealing, assult, or murder, no violent behavior is acceptable, so where they grew up isn't an excuse for acting the ways they did. Unfortunately, after reading True Notebooks I saw incredible potential in the boys, so its a shame they were raised they way they were. It makes me think what kind of people they could have been, and who they were destant to be. I also remember being the age the boys are, and there are many difficulties being a preteen. You go through many hardships and challanges. One main aspect of these challanges, is peer pressure. You can't escape peer pressure, because it follows you where ever you go. The only solution, is don't give in. Sadly, its too late for the kids in True Notebooks, to change their past, but it isn't to late to change their future. Sure, saying "no," and walking away, may be uncomfortable and awkward, but you will most likely end up saving your own life. Believe me, saying "no,"will be worth it in the end.
If I was 14 and sent to live on my own, I wouldn't let myself fail. I would do what it would take to stay alive. I would keep myself positive and strong. I wouldn't let myself fall, even if I had someone to catch me. I would keep my family and friends in my mind, and have that inspire me to make it through each day. I'm definitely not saying it would be easy to be on my own, but I would make it a priority to be okay. I would make it my own responsiblity to take action by keeping myself nourished. I would have prominant belief in myself that would be present from the second I open my eyes, to the second I shut them for the night. I would try my absolute hardest not to become weak. I would depend on having faith in myself, to keep my alive.
Natalia-
I think that the parents would be proud, of making it so far. I wouldn't know, but living in a jail sounds the farthest thing from easy. It sounds not only depressing, but lonely. Yes, they did commit the crime, so they have to pay the time, but theres no reason the boys can't be somewhat reconized. Personally, I don't think I would last a second in jail. I would die of anxiety and the constant thought of getting beat up. When I first started reading True Notebooks, I really admired Jimmy. I thought he had the most character and personality. I also enjoyed his stories. Unfortunately, later in the novel, I learned that Jimmy was caught smoking pot. I was very upset that he had made such a poor decision. I had complete confidence Jimmy was going to start a fresh life, but I was wrong. This proved that old habits do die hard. I think his parents would have been very disappointed in him, considering all of the wrong choices he has made. I considered Jimmy as one of those characters that had incredible potential, but I was very wrong. He was still the same person, as he was in the beginning. I feel sympathy for Jimmy, because I think he feels somewhat trapped in his own life. It must be a terrible feeling of not only dioscomfort, but lonliness. Now Jimmy is the one that really has to pay for all the mistakes he has made.
As I was growing up, watching each birthday pass me by, my parents grew more and more emotional. I am the youngest in the entire family, so it can't be easy watching me get older. My entire family is very close. My parents are divorced, but I have the type of family that is there for me every second of everyday. We are truely inseperable. One main thing my parents worry about is as I get older, that I will drift away from everyone. They are afraid that school, friends, and parties, are going to replace being with them. Little do they know, that there isn't one thing on this earth that I care about more than my family. They are the main focus of my life, and they will always come first. There will never be a day that passes by where I don't think about my family. I am incredibly close with my mom, shes my best friend. I think she worries that as I go off to college, that our relationship isn't going to remain the same. My mom will always have my back, and she will always support me in anything I decide to do with my life. I thank her for forming me into the person I am today, because without her, I wouldn't be me. She has taught me everything I have to know to be successful in life, and she is always there for me when I need her. I can only hope that one day I will end up the person she is. She has no idea how much I look up to her, and respect her. She has always been my role model, and will always be my role model. She has gone through so many awful things, that it is truly a miracle she is the person that she is today. I feel sorry for the inmates at Central, because they most likely never had this. If I didn't have the unconditional love that my mom has for me daily, I would probably be in trouble now too. But whenever I feel like taking a risk or doing something that puts me in danger, I think of how my mom would have to go through life without me here, and I suddenly want nothing to do with it anymore. Who knows, if we didn't have the relationship we have, I could be in the same position that the inmates are in. I could be addicted to drugs or alcohol, but I'm not. My mom is my hero, and shes saved my life.
Carmelo: response 13
Natalia:
I think when Marjanes mother finds out she is living with eight men she was a bit shocked and probably her imagination start turning. I dont see it as a surprise because if i found my daughter living with eight men i would think something was going on, but after finding out they were all gay her mother wasnt too worried but still felt Marjane needed a better household. I think Marjanes lifestyle is changing as she gets more mature, first she was young and praised punk until she became one and saw that they weren't what they seemed to be and most of it was it just show. She dropped that look to be more herself, with an easier lifestyle. It was not until it took a complete 180 and she started hanging out with Anarchists that she started to do weed and kept going on trips every so often. I feel the reasons for her life changes were highly based on having somewhere there for her far away from her family and she was still finding her self and these transitions and experiences she went to really sculpted the person she is today.
I guess you can say my parents have not really seen me mature or grow up really, i keep a lot from them but the things i have shown them they seem to be proud of me and how i turned out, but the major flaw she keep insisting i change is my lack of doing something, which to them consists of waking up at 6am and cleaning my room, but the fact that i want to go to college really makes them proud, even if its for the arts, for them as long as i am doing something i love and can make a living off of it they are happy. My parents both came to America around the age 10 from Sicily, my mother did not go back to school and my father graduate eighth grade only so for me and my sister to graduate high school was important, but i am the first to actually want to go to college and persuade in something i love doing.
Carmelo:
Marjane would clearly have a different outlook on life if she stayed in Iran. Her childhood girlfriends show that, if she hung out with them, that she would have tried to look westernized but not have the ideas as westernized women have, like smoking, drinking and pre-martial intercourse. She would have been limited to the amount of education she was able to get, if she was allowed education. Even with all of these obstacles i think she would have still tried to be open minded about things and the see the good in it all like she did when she was a child.
I think if i was sent out in the world at the of 14 i would probably not make it because at the age i was too dependent on my parents for everything, money, food, clothes, i dont think i would not have the mind set or the emotion endurance to go through what Marjane went through.
I think when Marjanes mother finds out she is living with eight men she was a bit shocked and probably her imagination start turning. I dont see it as a surprise because if i found my daughter living with eight men i would think something was going on, but after finding out they were all gay her mother wasnt too worried but still felt Marjane needed a better household. I think Marjanes lifestyle is changing as she gets more mature, first she was young and praised punk until she became one and saw that they weren't what they seemed to be and most of it was it just show. She dropped that look to be more herself, with an easier lifestyle. It was not until it took a complete 180 and she started hanging out with Anarchists that she started to do weed and kept going on trips every so often. I feel the reasons for her life changes were highly based on having somewhere there for her far away from her family and she was still finding her self and these transitions and experiences she went to really sculpted the person she is today.
I guess you can say my parents have not really seen me mature or grow up really, i keep a lot from them but the things i have shown them they seem to be proud of me and how i turned out, but the major flaw she keep insisting i change is my lack of doing something, which to them consists of waking up at 6am and cleaning my room, but the fact that i want to go to college really makes them proud, even if its for the arts, for them as long as i am doing something i love and can make a living off of it they are happy. My parents both came to America around the age 10 from Sicily, my mother did not go back to school and my father graduate eighth grade only so for me and my sister to graduate high school was important, but i am the first to actually want to go to college and persuade in something i love doing.
Carmelo:
Marjane would clearly have a different outlook on life if she stayed in Iran. Her childhood girlfriends show that, if she hung out with them, that she would have tried to look westernized but not have the ideas as westernized women have, like smoking, drinking and pre-martial intercourse. She would have been limited to the amount of education she was able to get, if she was allowed education. Even with all of these obstacles i think she would have still tried to be open minded about things and the see the good in it all like she did when she was a child.
I think if i was sent out in the world at the of 14 i would probably not make it because at the age i was too dependent on my parents for everything, money, food, clothes, i dont think i would not have the mind set or the emotion endurance to go through what Marjane went through.
Day 13
Natalia:I think that if Jimmy's mother was to see him on the writing class and read his writing in Marks class she will be proud. She will know that he is sorry for what he done in the past and wants to do better in life. He knows his mistakes and want to fix them. on the other hand if Nathniels mother or father came in to see him they will be disappointed. all he do is crack jokes all day and talk about people all the time. They will be highly disappointed that they son got send to the adult prison for acting up all they time. I thisk that Wong parents will be pround of him. He stays out of trouble in the jail. He may ignore some people there but he is cool with me. He made a stupid mistake in life and we all know it. But i think he came to the conclusion that he messed up and now he's doing good deeds to make up for his mistake.
When my partents didnt really like how i matured. I got really complacent and didnt reall obey what people told me. I hated grown ups once i found out that they acted like children too. The whole "respect your elders" quote went over my head. I started smokking weed and drinking alot. I started fighting everyday at my school. I went to jail and got kicked out of school for stupid stuff. I got into alot of situations I could of avoided. Later on in life i changed my life for the good. My parents were very proud. I got out of an altenative school. I also got off of probation. I graduated and i was very proud when i walked across the stage. I had the proudest parents in the world and they even happier that im going to college. :)
When my partents didnt really like how i matured. I got really complacent and didnt reall obey what people told me. I hated grown ups once i found out that they acted like children too. The whole "respect your elders" quote went over my head. I started smokking weed and drinking alot. I started fighting everyday at my school. I went to jail and got kicked out of school for stupid stuff. I got into alot of situations I could of avoided. Later on in life i changed my life for the good. My parents were very proud. I got out of an altenative school. I also got off of probation. I graduated and i was very proud when i walked across the stage. I had the proudest parents in the world and they even happier that im going to college. :)
Day 13: Natalia and Carmelo
Natalia...
Marji's life is officially being written by Marji herself. She's starting to make her own choices and decisions in her life. I think that overall, Marji's mom should be proud of who she has become. In Iran, Marji was always trying to look past the adversity and try to experience the life she wanted like dressing modernly or listening to music. Now in Austria, she can do that freely and doesn't have to worry about the fact that she might be stopped in the street or punished severely. She can become her own person that involves not always having fear and always believing in something better. Her mom may be skeptical about her living in the building with gay men, but overall Marji's done a lot of good in the time that she's been there. She's explored the culture and seen many things she did not understand till then. For me, I'm actually sort of jealous or Marji. I've always wanted the opportunity to go to another country and experience a different culture and learn new things. When I was at a young age, I always wanted to know about different religions and how each one of them differed from the other. I'd always look up books on religions in the library and learn about Catholics and Buddhism. It fascinated me on how different cultures could have different gods than the one I believed in but my mother would always tell me not to because "You'll get confused." Now, I look back and think that I should have continued finding more information. It's just an example on how me growing up and becoming a rebel didn't help my cause. A lot of the time, there were things I wanted to do that my mother would always criticize me on. One time my freshman year, I tore up a pair of brand new pants and wrote all over them in permanent marker for spirit week and my mother lost it. I had written tons of things all over them and it just made her more mad because they were my favorite bands or my bad role models (my friends at the time.) After that, I learned to keep my creative tangents to a minimum around her. Going through those moments with my mom, it taught me to think more into my future and where I was headed. I started to think to what other outlet could I put my creativity and I found it in writing. So overall I changed for the better and learned that I found a great gift...
Carmelo..
If Marji would have stayed in Iran, I feel things would be a lot worse for her. Being in Austria opened her mind to things that in Iran she would have been oblivious to. In Austria, she saw there was no war, no guardians of the revolution, and especially no veils. She also saw how liberal everyone was and how curious they were just to even know a little of what it was like for her. In Iran, Marji had a rebellious attitude that got her into trouble a lot and being in Iran would have just gotten her into more serious trouble or even executed. Although she was sent to Austria at a young age, it was a good opportunity to sort of broaden her horizons. The main reason why her parents sent her off to Austria was because they wanted her to have the opportunities that at her age, they didn't have. They also knew that if Marjane stayed in Iran, the chances of her getting a good education and succeeding were very slim. I think that if at the age of 14 I was sent off to another country, I feel there would be about a 50/50 chance I would survive. Once a year at my church, they do a convention that lasts a week and is always in a different state. Usually your parents don't go and you're given money and sent off with your pastors and other youth. I started going when I was twelve and it was always scary being somewhere you've never been before but after a while, I got used to being in different places and getting familiar with my surroundings. But on the bad side, I always tend to panic a little when I realize that the way I thought out things in my head are not necessarily what's happening outside of my head.That's when I need to breath and think over what's going on. I think that at 14, I would have wanted that experience. Of course I would miss my family but at the same time, I love learning new things and going on adventures so I think I'd feel pretty comfortable.That and a lot of times, it's always fun to leave your comfort zone and see beyond the walls around you.
Marji's life is officially being written by Marji herself. She's starting to make her own choices and decisions in her life. I think that overall, Marji's mom should be proud of who she has become. In Iran, Marji was always trying to look past the adversity and try to experience the life she wanted like dressing modernly or listening to music. Now in Austria, she can do that freely and doesn't have to worry about the fact that she might be stopped in the street or punished severely. She can become her own person that involves not always having fear and always believing in something better. Her mom may be skeptical about her living in the building with gay men, but overall Marji's done a lot of good in the time that she's been there. She's explored the culture and seen many things she did not understand till then. For me, I'm actually sort of jealous or Marji. I've always wanted the opportunity to go to another country and experience a different culture and learn new things. When I was at a young age, I always wanted to know about different religions and how each one of them differed from the other. I'd always look up books on religions in the library and learn about Catholics and Buddhism. It fascinated me on how different cultures could have different gods than the one I believed in but my mother would always tell me not to because "You'll get confused." Now, I look back and think that I should have continued finding more information. It's just an example on how me growing up and becoming a rebel didn't help my cause. A lot of the time, there were things I wanted to do that my mother would always criticize me on. One time my freshman year, I tore up a pair of brand new pants and wrote all over them in permanent marker for spirit week and my mother lost it. I had written tons of things all over them and it just made her more mad because they were my favorite bands or my bad role models (my friends at the time.) After that, I learned to keep my creative tangents to a minimum around her. Going through those moments with my mom, it taught me to think more into my future and where I was headed. I started to think to what other outlet could I put my creativity and I found it in writing. So overall I changed for the better and learned that I found a great gift...
Carmelo..
If Marji would have stayed in Iran, I feel things would be a lot worse for her. Being in Austria opened her mind to things that in Iran she would have been oblivious to. In Austria, she saw there was no war, no guardians of the revolution, and especially no veils. She also saw how liberal everyone was and how curious they were just to even know a little of what it was like for her. In Iran, Marji had a rebellious attitude that got her into trouble a lot and being in Iran would have just gotten her into more serious trouble or even executed. Although she was sent to Austria at a young age, it was a good opportunity to sort of broaden her horizons. The main reason why her parents sent her off to Austria was because they wanted her to have the opportunities that at her age, they didn't have. They also knew that if Marjane stayed in Iran, the chances of her getting a good education and succeeding were very slim. I think that if at the age of 14 I was sent off to another country, I feel there would be about a 50/50 chance I would survive. Once a year at my church, they do a convention that lasts a week and is always in a different state. Usually your parents don't go and you're given money and sent off with your pastors and other youth. I started going when I was twelve and it was always scary being somewhere you've never been before but after a while, I got used to being in different places and getting familiar with my surroundings. But on the bad side, I always tend to panic a little when I realize that the way I thought out things in my head are not necessarily what's happening outside of my head.That's when I need to breath and think over what's going on. I think that at 14, I would have wanted that experience. Of course I would miss my family but at the same time, I love learning new things and going on adventures so I think I'd feel pretty comfortable.That and a lot of times, it's always fun to leave your comfort zone and see beyond the walls around you.
Ashly
Carmelo's question:
I strongly believe that if the boys in True Notebooks were to grow up in a different family and in a different area, their lives would be completely different. I believe the family life that they were lacking helped to lead them into the position that they are in now. If they would have grown up in a family where education was stressed they probably would have a complete different life. Maybe if the parents they do/did have stressed the importance of it their lives would have turned out different. Even if the boys grew up in a complete different neighborhood their lives would be different. Maybe the people they would have surrounded themselves with would have had a good impact on them and helped them become successful people later in life. Maybe if they didn't grow up in a area place where poverty was prevalent they wouldn't have fell into the gang lives that they did.
I think If Marjane would have stayed in Iraq she would have been a different person because she would have had different experiences. She still would be with her family, but she also would still be around war, and not able to get the education that she wanted. Marjane probably would have a different outlook on life if she would have stayed.
If I had to live on my own at the age of 14, not knowing what I do now, I don't think I would be able to do it. At that age I didn't know much outside of my social life, let alone know how to take care of myself. I don't think I would do well at all being away from my parents at that age, I think it would be a very difficult struggle for me, and I don't know how I would deal with things. I guess if I had to be placed in that situation I would find a way to get by, but looking back at how I was at that age, I do not know what I would do.
Natalia's Question:
I think her mother is probably very worried because she is not used to seeing Marji in that situation. She is used to seeing Marji in their home and how she lives their. It probably is difficult to watch for her Mother, I think her mother feels bad about not being there to help raise her, and that if she was Marji would be in a different situation.
If the parents of the kids in True Notebooks were to see their children I think they would be very upset. Most of these children murdered someone and they have to deal with the fact that their son's could commit such a horrible act. I think the parents would blame themselves for not raising their children in a different way. It would be difficult to know that your child may be in prison for the rest of their lives. If it was my child in jail, I know I would be ashamed, I would blame myself for not being their when the child needed me, I would feel like it was my fault, like I didn't provide enough for the child to live a normal life instead of relying on a gang life. I would take a step back and look at myself and see what I did wrong for my child to be in that position. I think most of their parents would feel the same.
When I was first maturing and starting to become older my Mom especially did not like it. My mom and I would get into stupid arguments nearly everyday. We could not stand to be around each other for almost two years. We would get into fights even while being in the car together. I couldn't talk to her and she couldn't talk to me because it just turned into yelling. I had a bad attitude problem and she really couldn't stand me. As I grew out of that stage she and I began to get along more, and now we are very close.
I strongly believe that if the boys in True Notebooks were to grow up in a different family and in a different area, their lives would be completely different. I believe the family life that they were lacking helped to lead them into the position that they are in now. If they would have grown up in a family where education was stressed they probably would have a complete different life. Maybe if the parents they do/did have stressed the importance of it their lives would have turned out different. Even if the boys grew up in a complete different neighborhood their lives would be different. Maybe the people they would have surrounded themselves with would have had a good impact on them and helped them become successful people later in life. Maybe if they didn't grow up in a area place where poverty was prevalent they wouldn't have fell into the gang lives that they did.
I think If Marjane would have stayed in Iraq she would have been a different person because she would have had different experiences. She still would be with her family, but she also would still be around war, and not able to get the education that she wanted. Marjane probably would have a different outlook on life if she would have stayed.
If I had to live on my own at the age of 14, not knowing what I do now, I don't think I would be able to do it. At that age I didn't know much outside of my social life, let alone know how to take care of myself. I don't think I would do well at all being away from my parents at that age, I think it would be a very difficult struggle for me, and I don't know how I would deal with things. I guess if I had to be placed in that situation I would find a way to get by, but looking back at how I was at that age, I do not know what I would do.
Natalia's Question:
I think her mother is probably very worried because she is not used to seeing Marji in that situation. She is used to seeing Marji in their home and how she lives their. It probably is difficult to watch for her Mother, I think her mother feels bad about not being there to help raise her, and that if she was Marji would be in a different situation.
If the parents of the kids in True Notebooks were to see their children I think they would be very upset. Most of these children murdered someone and they have to deal with the fact that their son's could commit such a horrible act. I think the parents would blame themselves for not raising their children in a different way. It would be difficult to know that your child may be in prison for the rest of their lives. If it was my child in jail, I know I would be ashamed, I would blame myself for not being their when the child needed me, I would feel like it was my fault, like I didn't provide enough for the child to live a normal life instead of relying on a gang life. I would take a step back and look at myself and see what I did wrong for my child to be in that position. I think most of their parents would feel the same.
When I was first maturing and starting to become older my Mom especially did not like it. My mom and I would get into stupid arguments nearly everyday. We could not stand to be around each other for almost two years. We would get into fights even while being in the car together. I couldn't talk to her and she couldn't talk to me because it just turned into yelling. I had a bad attitude problem and she really couldn't stand me. As I grew out of that stage she and I began to get along more, and now we are very close.
Day 13: Chris
Carmelo Response
If Marjane was to have stayed in Iran I don't think she would have an outlook on the world since there isn't a way to see outside the country. Mostly everything in her country was banned so there was nothing to go off on. I think staying in the country of Iran would have been a bad move on Marjane's part and I think Austria was a better choice. While in Austria Marjane did face many challenges, but it was for the better and I believe she came out with a better understanding of how things work outside of Iran. Iran is her comfort zone and to me if you go out of your comfort zone you learn more about yourself and your surroundings. Besides being in her comfort zone, Iran is so cut off from everywhere else its impossible to get an impression on the world that surrounds the people. To have simple things banned within a country and to have to go through so much to get out of the country is hard a person and might make them believe the rest of the world is the same. I know when I was 14 everything left an impression on me. If I had to live on my own at such a young age, I don't think I could have survived. I was too much of a smart mouth and didn't know too much of what was going on around me to have survived. To be able to be on your own that young takes a lot of courage and some sense of responsibility which I know I lacked. For Marjane to be able to survive show a lot of will power and drive. I think that's why I look up to her and my connection with her is strong when I read the book.
Nataila Response
I think Marjane's mother is shocked at first to learn her daughter is living with 8 other guys, as any mother would, but to find out they were all gay shocked her even more. Its not a personal thing, its more cultural seeing as the people in Austria have the freedom to do as they please and be open about it as well. Compare this to Iran where every couple is male and female and you begin to understand where the shock comes from. Marjane's mother I believe is proud of her daughter for adapting to this new culture in a respectable way. I commend Marjane for making such a quick adjustment over a short period of time and I highly doubt I could do the same. To leave everyone you know behind and start new by yourself as a teenager is tough and Marjane handles it to the best of her abilities. Her parents have every right to be proud of her. I know I was. My parents handled my coming to terms with maturity the same way. I shocked them more than anything with my sudden lack of trouble in school. I think my behavior problems disappeared as I got older and as I learned more about myself, the more comfortable I was in my own skin. Must of the trouble I got into I think was to just show out and cause a scene, but with age the desire to do so went away. Sure I still clowned around from time to time but I learned a bit of self control. Needless to say they were proud. The phone calls from school stopped and my grades started going back up. I was pleased with myself on bringing my parents so much joy and I hope to continue to do so when I attend Columbia.
If Marjane was to have stayed in Iran I don't think she would have an outlook on the world since there isn't a way to see outside the country. Mostly everything in her country was banned so there was nothing to go off on. I think staying in the country of Iran would have been a bad move on Marjane's part and I think Austria was a better choice. While in Austria Marjane did face many challenges, but it was for the better and I believe she came out with a better understanding of how things work outside of Iran. Iran is her comfort zone and to me if you go out of your comfort zone you learn more about yourself and your surroundings. Besides being in her comfort zone, Iran is so cut off from everywhere else its impossible to get an impression on the world that surrounds the people. To have simple things banned within a country and to have to go through so much to get out of the country is hard a person and might make them believe the rest of the world is the same. I know when I was 14 everything left an impression on me. If I had to live on my own at such a young age, I don't think I could have survived. I was too much of a smart mouth and didn't know too much of what was going on around me to have survived. To be able to be on your own that young takes a lot of courage and some sense of responsibility which I know I lacked. For Marjane to be able to survive show a lot of will power and drive. I think that's why I look up to her and my connection with her is strong when I read the book.
Nataila Response
I think Marjane's mother is shocked at first to learn her daughter is living with 8 other guys, as any mother would, but to find out they were all gay shocked her even more. Its not a personal thing, its more cultural seeing as the people in Austria have the freedom to do as they please and be open about it as well. Compare this to Iran where every couple is male and female and you begin to understand where the shock comes from. Marjane's mother I believe is proud of her daughter for adapting to this new culture in a respectable way. I commend Marjane for making such a quick adjustment over a short period of time and I highly doubt I could do the same. To leave everyone you know behind and start new by yourself as a teenager is tough and Marjane handles it to the best of her abilities. Her parents have every right to be proud of her. I know I was. My parents handled my coming to terms with maturity the same way. I shocked them more than anything with my sudden lack of trouble in school. I think my behavior problems disappeared as I got older and as I learned more about myself, the more comfortable I was in my own skin. Must of the trouble I got into I think was to just show out and cause a scene, but with age the desire to do so went away. Sure I still clowned around from time to time but I learned a bit of self control. Needless to say they were proud. The phone calls from school stopped and my grades started going back up. I was pleased with myself on bringing my parents so much joy and I hope to continue to do so when I attend Columbia.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Day 13: Richard
Allie’s Response
Truthfully I have falsely judged some people based on their actions but never saw their other side. Really I feel guilty of doing it but Ms. Atkintonde said it is the 7/11 rule. People are prone to judge someone based off the vibe you give off and your image right off the back; it’s just the way of the world and human nature. No one really understands anyone deep enough until they tell you there story and in a way we all give off a single story without speaking, we all come up with assumptions in our minds before we say anything. I have been falsely judge plenty of times because of a piece of paper basically saying I’m stupid. Grades in high school gave off a vibe to teachers that he won’t be able to pass, he can’t learn, he is lazy, all of the above; so they never take time with you, ask if you need help, they just sit back and relax till that paycheck comes in. I see now that I have to change this number to a higher number just so I can get the respect I deserve; teachers know I’m a smart kid I just don’t apply it to the best of my abilities because I figure that they don’t care and I believe it. I feel dumb now and all the risk I see myself going through but I still keep my head up during the time being because I know that I’m the one who can change me, nobody else.
Bashkim’s Response
When I talk about how I feel I kind let it get to me sometimes; coming up in a rough area and dealing with issues in the house all at the same is frustrating. I now that it can be resolved but how can I change it. Well my plan to solve all my problems is to go to college. I figured that if I go I can make my parents proud, I’m on my own which so I don’t have to rely on my mother to take care of me and when I graduate I can support my family as they did for me. See when I talk about my situation I see it in a positive way beside looking down on it and putting myself down because I know I can change the outcome. People think of my outcome and see that it isn’t a pleasant one but only I can determine that. When people here my story they kind of understand me more as a person besides just seeing my image and what I talk about in normal conversation. Truthfully to a certain extant I would tell someone to let out there feeling because you get that weight off your shoulders you feel kind of relieved to let people understand where you are coming from besides being quiet and concealed; that’s when people just start to judge you and you’ll get angry because you know that’s not who you are. Understanding oneself can really make an impact on your life but since we are all young we are still in the process of finding who we are as a person.
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